Can guys and girls JUST be friends???
the question that everyone seems to have their own answer to...some say yes...some say no...others madly search for something to change the subject to or just laugh and continue talking about whatever the conversation used to be about.
what do i say on the matter? i say it's possible...but not likely...on the rare occassion that you find a girl and a guy that are friends i think, more often than not, at least one of the two feels a little inkling more than friendly feelings for the other. i'm not trying to be pessimistic...don't get me wrong! i'm just saying that from my view...when i meet a guy that i like enough to want to hang out with again than it's most likely that i like him more than a friend! it's not a bad thing people! however it does mean a lot of heartache for those unlucky ones who are on the receiving side of the friendly feelings in a relationship...
i myself have been on both sides...there's the guys you can only see as your friends which means either...not cute enough...not sweet enough...or just the right amount of goofy that there's no way you could imagine them as your hubby to be in the future...then of course there's the guys that you think are just too cute and adorable but they only see you as a friend...
now i wouldn't bring it up except for i recently just "re"discovered a guy that i used to see as more than a friend but now he's engaged...that's right...basically wearing a sandwich board that says "TAKEN"...so now i'm in a situation where all i've known of this guy is being more than friends and now he calls me up as if we're friends and always have been...what's a girl to do??? i feel anxious cuz i'm not sure if i can look at him and tiny every time his fiance calls and he tells her i'm there...
so i ask the question again...what's a girl to do??? and more importantly what am i supposed to do??? :) do i keep hanging out with him being terrified that i'll do something wrong and his super jealous fiance will think i'm trying to steal him??? or do i just forget about it and tell him i can't deal with the situation cuz being friends with guys (ESPECIALLY those with girlfriends, fiances, or wives) is just too difficult??? single girls get all the guff cuz everyone assumes we're hitting on someone elses man! it's just too hard to be friends with a guy now-a-days!!!
any feedback on the matter or good stories to tell? :)
what do i say on the matter? i say it's possible...but not likely...on the rare occassion that you find a girl and a guy that are friends i think, more often than not, at least one of the two feels a little inkling more than friendly feelings for the other. i'm not trying to be pessimistic...don't get me wrong! i'm just saying that from my view...when i meet a guy that i like enough to want to hang out with again than it's most likely that i like him more than a friend! it's not a bad thing people! however it does mean a lot of heartache for those unlucky ones who are on the receiving side of the friendly feelings in a relationship...
i myself have been on both sides...there's the guys you can only see as your friends which means either...not cute enough...not sweet enough...or just the right amount of goofy that there's no way you could imagine them as your hubby to be in the future...then of course there's the guys that you think are just too cute and adorable but they only see you as a friend...
now i wouldn't bring it up except for i recently just "re"discovered a guy that i used to see as more than a friend but now he's engaged...that's right...basically wearing a sandwich board that says "TAKEN"...so now i'm in a situation where all i've known of this guy is being more than friends and now he calls me up as if we're friends and always have been...what's a girl to do??? i feel anxious cuz i'm not sure if i can look at him and tiny every time his fiance calls and he tells her i'm there...
so i ask the question again...what's a girl to do??? and more importantly what am i supposed to do??? :) do i keep hanging out with him being terrified that i'll do something wrong and his super jealous fiance will think i'm trying to steal him??? or do i just forget about it and tell him i can't deal with the situation cuz being friends with guys (ESPECIALLY those with girlfriends, fiances, or wives) is just too difficult??? single girls get all the guff cuz everyone assumes we're hitting on someone elses man! it's just too hard to be friends with a guy now-a-days!!!
any feedback on the matter or good stories to tell? :)
posted by eshi @ 1/22/2007 06:18:00 PM
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